Episode 12 - Recognizing and Managing Betrayal Trauma

Mr. Jay talks about the reality of betrayal trauma in relationships as well as how it can show up in your life. In this episode, we discuss the challenges of not addressing betrayal trauma and how it can impact your life and future relationships. He is also an expert on intrapersonal relationships, which is our ability to have a positive relationship with ourselves. Through his personal experience with panic attacks after a loss, Mr. Jay helps us to recognize how unhealed trauma may be a factor in anyone's life.


Mr. Jay talks about the difference between trauma and betrayal trauma and how the issues are very different when someone you know and trust intentionally hurts you and hits your core insecurities. He also addresses the importance of reaching out and getting help throughout the many stages of betrayal trauma while providing concrete examples and tips.


About the Guest:

Mr. Jay is a Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach. He holds a master's degree in education, is ministry credentialed, a certified special education teacher, an author of a children's book, "I Am Loved Right Where I Am, a veteran of the United States military, an Inspirational public speaker, adoptive parent and much more. But his childhood was anything but success. After years of drugs, alcohol, and years in special ed. Mr. Jay quit school in sixth grade ultimately living on the streets and falling victim to abuse after abuse. After the second gun to his temple, Mr. Jay vowed to fix himself so he could help fix others. Determined, Mr. Jay put himself through school researching self-help books, therapy, psychology, and spirituality. Mr. Jay learned, and stands by his motto, "The Relationship You Have With Yourself Sets the Tone for All Other Relationships Around You" and says, "Relationships can break you but even broken crayons can create beautiful masterpieces.


To connect with Mr. Jay:

Website: https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/

YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/xfv8b4vb

Twitter: https://twitter.com/JayRelationship

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrjayrelationshipcoach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MrJayRelationshipCoach

Tiktok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdMfnhJW/

Book: https://tinyurl.com/4yta7s33

About the Host:

Mardi Winder-Adams is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition Coach, and a Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas. She has worked with women in executive, entrepreneur, and leadership roles navigating personal, life, and professional transitions. She is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC.


To find out more about divorce coaching: www.divorcecoach4women.com

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4women

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/


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