Episode 222 - Overcoming Divorce Shame And Stigma For Women

Today, Mardi Winder welcomes psychotherapist Oona Metz to share her expertise on supporting women through the emotional journey of divorce. With decades of professional experience and personal insight from her own divorce, Oona describes how she recognized the profound need for safe, supportive spaces where women could process the unique challenges of leaving a marriage. This realization led her to create in-person divorce support groups, which quickly grew in popularity as participants found camaraderie, hope, and strength in sharing their experiences together.

The conversation explores the emotional realities women face during divorce, such as feelings of shame and divorce stigma that can linger despite changing social norms. Oona and Mardi talk about the societal and religious expectations that often place extra pressure on women, making it harder to leave unhealthy relationships. They address the misconception that enduring a troubled marriage is best for children, highlighting new research and heartfelt stories that illustrate how children can thrive when conflict and tension are replaced with peaceful, supportive environments, even if that means living in separate households.

Throughout the episode, Oona shares her approach to creating confidentiality and trust within support groups, while acknowledging the importance of professional facilitation. She emphasizes that the emotional complexities of divorce, including anger, sadness, relief, and even longing, are all valid, and being surrounded by others at different stages can offer both comfort and perspective.

As the episode draws to a close, Oona Metz introduces her upcoming book, Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women, designed to help women feel understood and equipped to move forward. Packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and reflective exercises, the book is positioned as a companion for anyone facing divorce.

About the Guest:

Oona Metz is the author of Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women. She is a psychotherapist who specializes in treating women navigating divorce. She leads three weekly divorce support groups for women and trains mental health clinicians to lead them as well.

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