Episode 230 - Coping With Divorce When Addiction Is Involved

In this episode, host Mardi Winder welcomes renowned master addiction counselor Amber Hollingsworth, the founder of the Hope for Families Recovery Center and creator of the "Put the Shovel Down" YouTube channel, for a powerful and honest conversation about one of the most sensitive and challenging issues that can affect a marriage: addiction.

Together, Mardi and Amber tackle the real-life complexities that arise when addiction becomes an unwelcome guest in the family. Amber shares her personal and professional journey, describing how growing up in an addicted family shaped her understanding of these patterns, and how she uses this insight to guide others through the storm. This episode goes beyond the textbook treatment model, revealing the emotional rollercoaster faced by supportive partners: the exhaustion of trying to "parent" your spouse, the guilt that seems unavoidable whether you stay or leave, and the deep changes you undergo as you try to hold everything together.

Listeners will hear candid advice on recognizing when an environment has become unsafe, setting healthy boundaries, and resisting the urge to make your children confidants in adult struggles. Amber introduces new concepts like "guiltzentiment", the toxic blend of guilt and resentment many non-addicted partners experience, and emphasizes the critical importance of self-care and reclaiming time for yourself, even when it feels impossible.

Whether you’re considering leaving an addicted spouse, struggling with the impacts on your kids, or just searching for understanding and next steps, this episode provides valuable, actionable strategies and reassurance that your needs matter too. It’s an honest, compassionate look at the real issues behind addiction and divorce, and a reminder that hope, recovery, and self-respect are within reach.

About the Guest:

Amber Hollingsworth is a master addiction counselor, founder of Hope For Families Recovery Center, and creator of the YouTube channel Put The Shovel Down. With over two decades of experience, she’s helped thousands of families navigate addiction recovery using innovative, relationship-focused strategies like the Invisible Intervention. Known for her relatable, no-nonsense approach, Amber empowers families to outsmart addiction, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust. Her expertise and compassionate style make her a sought-after podcast guest, offering practical advice and hope to families facing the challenges of addiction.

For Amber’s gift: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/understanding-boundaries-in-addiction

To connect with Amber:

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT8PE1v0xFR9zLXOijxM6hg

IG : https://www.instagram.com/puttheshoveldown/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/addictionrecoveryhope

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amber-hollingsworth-833111b8/